Not a super flexy slender Yoga chick talks "the Power of Fear"

Fear is often understood as "I’m scared of snakes", "I’m scared of the dark", or "I’m scared of danger"… but in a spiritual sense, fear is anything that is not love.

What is love? Well, do you remember when Patrick Swayze walks up to Baby’s dad and says, “Nobody puts Baby in a corner!” Or when Leonardo DiCaprio gives up his spot on the oh-so-big-floating-wooden-door-that-could-definitely-fit-two for Kate Winslet and disappears into the freezing waters? Or when Richard Gere gifts Julia Roberts a diamond necklace and buys her all those fancy clothes? You remember, right?

Well… let me spoil it for you: that is NOT love.

That’s the human version of love, which often sounds like: “I need you to complete me because without you I feel insecure and I love how I feel when I’m with you.” But true love? True love is the absence of judgment and the full acceptance of another person. And acceptance means no opinion, no reaction, no need to change them. You’re simply there, present, supportive, and growing together.

So, fear is actually anything you don’t fully accept and that you try to resist. The reasons may vary, of course, but here are some of the most common:

• Anger: Fear of losing control, fear of being hurt, or fear of being disrespected. Anger shows up when we feel threatened, unseen, or powerless. We use it to protect ourselves or to regain control.

• Jealousy: Fear of not being enough or of being replaced. It comes from deep insecurity, the belief that someone else might take what we think should be ours.

• Insecurity: Fear of not being loved, accepted, or worthy. It’s the idea that there’s something wrong or missing inside of us.

• Laziness: Fear of failure or fear of success. Laziness is often a defense. If I don’t try, I can’t fail. If I don’t grow, I don’t risk responsibility.

• Arrogance: Fear of being inferior or insignificant. Arrogance is a costume worn by self-doubt. It tries to look powerful but hides deep fragility.

• Overeating / Undereating: Fear of feeling, or fear of being out of control. Food becomes a way to numb or control what feels overwhelming.

• Complaining: Fear of being powerless or not heard. Complaining can be a desperate way to be seen, to be acknowledged, to feel like we matter.

  
  

The list goes on. Every time you avoid feeling something because it’s uncomfortable, you’re living in fear. FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. Most of the times, it's a construct in your mind. It's not real.

But here’s the beautiful part: the only way out is through. When you truly allow yourself to feel your feelings, fully, without numbing, avoiding, or analyzing you create space to surrender. And it’s in that surrender that you let go of whatever is holding you back from your better, more peaceful self.

Yes, it will be hard. Yes, it will take all of you. No, there are no shortcuts. But the reward? Freedom from all those achy, itchy, yucky feelings you’ve been trying to escape.

Give it a try. What have you got to lose?