Not a super flexy slender Yoga chick talks "the Power of Fudge It"

Enlightenment is not needed to understand "the Power of Fudge It"—and no, I’m not talking about candy. It’s all about learning not to identify with everything that happens to you, not getting caught up in the drama, and letting go when you need to. Now, before you start judging me for "cursing," let me explain myself.

What I mean is simple: don’t let your identity get wrapped up in every situation. I’m NOT saying you shouldn’t care. Quite the opposite! You should always care and give your best, but you don’t need to identify with every situation, person, or circumstance. Remember, it’s not about you.

Here are some examples:

• Someone is being rude to you? Fudge it. Walk away.

• Stuck in traffic? Fudge it. The traffic will eventually move.

• Your child is throwing a tantrum? Fudge it. That child will eventually run out of energy.

Don't waste your energy on the superficial stuff!

Nothing that happens around you has anything to do with your true self. We are just a speck of dust on a grain of sand in the vast, infinite universe for a very short time. Do you really think the universe revolves around you? I’m not saying this to be harsh, but to give you perspective. What’s happening around you is just someone else’s perception of reality. The person in front of you is having the same experience but through their own lens, and so on.

A good piece of advice someone gave me: If it doesn't matter in a week, a month, or a year, then don't waste your energy on it. Don’t fight it. Don’t invest too much energy. Step back, observe the situation from the outside, and then—fudge it. This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t have strong emotions about things. Feel them, express them (mindfully, of course, being sure you’re responding and not reacting). But remember, it’s not personal. It doesn’t have anything to do with your true self. And once you've processed your emotions, just fudge it.

Life is like sailing. When a storm hits, you don’t fight it. Instead, you adjust your sails and go with the flow. The storm might be disappointing, but it could also be exactly what you need to shift direction. So, if you find yourself in a situation where things aren't going your way, don't fight it. Do your best, invest some energy, but then—fudge it. You never know what the universe is conspiring in your favor. What you want now might not be what you need in the long run. And since you're just a speck of dust on a grain of sand, realize that the world doesn’t revolve around you.

The 100 red lights, the 1,000 people in the queue when you're in a hurry, the delayed train or flight—these things might make you want to explode, but if you really look at it, most of it doesn’t matter. Fudge it.

P.S. It’s easier said than done. It takes practice, but it’s totally worth it!

Are you able to “fudge it” in your life?