Not a super flexy slender Yoga chick talks "the Power of Distance ”

I’d like to ask you to go to a screen and put your nose right against it. Can you still see the “big picture”? I already know the answer, but humor me 😏

When we get too close to things (or people), we lose the ability to stay objective. We stop seeing with distance, stop seeing the bigger picture, stop thinking outside of “our” box. That’s when distance becomes essential, whether it comes in the form of another person or simply taking a break.

Have you noticed that when you obsess over a problem, the solution never comes? Or in relationships (work, friendship, love), you sometimes can’t see the real issue (or the fact that there is no issue at all)? The harder you push, the darker the tunnel feels. Distance is the answer.

Of course, most of us don’t like that option. It requires waiting, patience, sitting in the uncertainty without an answer. And ohhhhh how we dislike that. We want everything here and now. We want solutions instantly, ideally yesterday. But life doesn’t work that way. Nope.

Distance can be created in many ways, and there’s no right or wrong. You might ask someone for advice and open yourself to a different perspective. You might talk about something completely unrelated and suddenly a light bulb switches on. You might go for a run (or grab chocolate ice cream, whatever works) and take your focus off the problem. The more you obsess, the less clarity you gain.

Ever been told to “sleep on it”? During sleep, clarity, intuition, even divine guidance (if you like to call it that) can slip in. The overthinking, closed-loop mind takes a rest. That’s when the subconscious works its magic, free from emotional interference.

Ah, emotions. Beautiful, intense, messy emotions. They’re simply reactions triggered by memories, responses to impulses. In the same context, the reaction repeats itself even if the situation is different. Neural pathways get carved, and they remain until we choose to change them.

Take driving, for example. Someone cuts you off and you curse their great-great-great-second-degree cousin (is that even possible?). Your blood pressure spikes, then settles. You repeat this without noticing.

Now, add distance. Imagine watching yourself from the outside: a person screaming bloody murder at someone they don’t even know, someone who can’t hear them. What would you think? The real challenge is rewiring the brain not to go there again. Someone cuts you off. So what? Keep driving. Keep going. Don’t waste your energy. Don’t let repeated emotions rule your behavior.

Pause. Breathe. Observe what you feel and step back. Suddenly everything becomes clearer. Try it, you might be very surprised at the outcome.